Hello all,
All our life we have been living comparing our life with someone else's . Comparison is both good and bad. Comparison can lead one to improve , and can make one feel depressed too. One should ideally compare one with oneself, it will lead to improvement rather than complaining after comparing with some one else.
The problem with us is, we compare to someone else whom we know , mostly to the person whom we hate.
As the picture says , all humans try to impress someone or the other, either for personal life or for professional life. Life will be much easier if we try to impress ourselves than others, if I like what I am doing, obviously someone else too will like it. There are cases where trying to impress another person can be a good thing, though, provided it’s someone who has earned your respect. Still the more satisfying victories come when we win for ourselves rather than to do win for the sake of impressing others.
The people whom you respect are people who have lived their own life, and not people who imitated.
Of late, there has been a lot of comparisons between dailies like Hindu or Times of India , and in movies it leads to SRK or Aamir , or regionally between Ajith and Vijay , and after the win against NewZealand , MSD or Dada.
One thing I realize here is people often compare with their competitors, not the best. For instance, even the companies which we work for, take a product which we are developing, we often end up comparing what the competitor is doing, so as to just to ensure that whatever he has , we also have, and if possible something more. From a shortsighted view, it guarantees you a business, but wont it be good if we stop comparing and give the best, wont we get automatically a reputation for ourselves ?
If you compare movies of Ajith with Vijay's , or the other way round , you should realize that you are comparing one with the other cos, you have always looked up on the other one. So what you are trying to say is you are better when compared with the other, and hence you are implying that the other one has set the benchmark and you are trying to prove that you have overachieved than the benchmark.
Same goes with who is the better captain Dada or MSD. Everyone has a different opinion , some might say Dravid is the best one too or even Sachin. May be statistically one can be a better captain , but statistics does not cover all the factors involved, one should exercise caution while interpreting numbers, they all come with an invisible * conditions apply.
Dada or MSD , who is better on home, who is better abroad, who is better overall, who is better against minnows, who is better against competing teams, who is better at managing people, numbers can say all these, but we take what we want, and try to ignore the other factor.
If someone wants to be a better captain, they should compare one to himself, whether he is progressing or not, than to compare with some one else. But without something concrete to compare to, the comparison would go fuzzy. So to set the benchmark take who is the best. Compare with the best and then improve.
If you are comparing X with some retired Y, and say X is better than Y, it means that X has now achieved what Y has achieved before, and hence Y had set the benchmark before, why dont you compare that X with some Z who is the best.
By comparing with some one whom you think is lower in the hierarchy than you, and saying you are the best is completely wrong on one's side. Comparing with such a one is good, if you can take positives to improve on, but if you compare with some one who is not the best, and say you are better , then it indirectly reduces your level of achievement, indirectly you are implying that am not the best, but better than who is not the best again !
To make things simple, a new batsman should compare with some other batsman, rather than Ashwin whose role is not to bat. If some X hits 2 centuries, and says he is better than Ashwin as he has just one, then its a wrong comparison, you should choose a valid comparison , not the one you are trying to impress on.
That X should compare oneself to the greats, and to himself rather than the one who is your immediate competitor. Once you start that, automatically you will do better, and you one day can be the best, or atleast you would have set the benchmarks which others will try to achieve and cross.
And most important of all, don't criticize people just because someone likes X and you like Y. The more you criticize, as per the paradox quoted above, you are comparing X with Y, and hence meaning that both are not the best !
In fact, if you look at it the other way, there is no best, whats best today might turn out to be even the worst tomorrow, and hence stop comparing with others, compare yourself with your past achievement, progress comes automatically, and most important stop shouting X is better than Y, as its just a matter of time, that Y will take over X, and then you know what will happen..
Like everything, the vicious circle continues, you continuously try to be the best, so as to remain as the best.
Bye til nex,
All our life we have been living comparing our life with someone else's . Comparison is both good and bad. Comparison can lead one to improve , and can make one feel depressed too. One should ideally compare one with oneself, it will lead to improvement rather than complaining after comparing with some one else.
The problem with us is, we compare to someone else whom we know , mostly to the person whom we hate.
The people whom you respect are people who have lived their own life, and not people who imitated.
Of late, there has been a lot of comparisons between dailies like Hindu or Times of India , and in movies it leads to SRK or Aamir , or regionally between Ajith and Vijay , and after the win against NewZealand , MSD or Dada.
One thing I realize here is people often compare with their competitors, not the best. For instance, even the companies which we work for, take a product which we are developing, we often end up comparing what the competitor is doing, so as to just to ensure that whatever he has , we also have, and if possible something more. From a shortsighted view, it guarantees you a business, but wont it be good if we stop comparing and give the best, wont we get automatically a reputation for ourselves ?
If you compare movies of Ajith with Vijay's , or the other way round , you should realize that you are comparing one with the other cos, you have always looked up on the other one. So what you are trying to say is you are better when compared with the other, and hence you are implying that the other one has set the benchmark and you are trying to prove that you have overachieved than the benchmark.
Dada or MSD , who is better on home, who is better abroad, who is better overall, who is better against minnows, who is better against competing teams, who is better at managing people, numbers can say all these, but we take what we want, and try to ignore the other factor.
If someone wants to be a better captain, they should compare one to himself, whether he is progressing or not, than to compare with some one else. But without something concrete to compare to, the comparison would go fuzzy. So to set the benchmark take who is the best. Compare with the best and then improve.
If you are comparing X with some retired Y, and say X is better than Y, it means that X has now achieved what Y has achieved before, and hence Y had set the benchmark before, why dont you compare that X with some Z who is the best.
By comparing with some one whom you think is lower in the hierarchy than you, and saying you are the best is completely wrong on one's side. Comparing with such a one is good, if you can take positives to improve on, but if you compare with some one who is not the best, and say you are better , then it indirectly reduces your level of achievement, indirectly you are implying that am not the best, but better than who is not the best again !
To make things simple, a new batsman should compare with some other batsman, rather than Ashwin whose role is not to bat. If some X hits 2 centuries, and says he is better than Ashwin as he has just one, then its a wrong comparison, you should choose a valid comparison , not the one you are trying to impress on.
That X should compare oneself to the greats, and to himself rather than the one who is your immediate competitor. Once you start that, automatically you will do better, and you one day can be the best, or atleast you would have set the benchmarks which others will try to achieve and cross.
And most important of all, don't criticize people just because someone likes X and you like Y. The more you criticize, as per the paradox quoted above, you are comparing X with Y, and hence meaning that both are not the best !
In fact, if you look at it the other way, there is no best, whats best today might turn out to be even the worst tomorrow, and hence stop comparing with others, compare yourself with your past achievement, progress comes automatically, and most important stop shouting X is better than Y, as its just a matter of time, that Y will take over X, and then you know what will happen..
Like everything, the vicious circle continues, you continuously try to be the best, so as to remain as the best.
Bye til nex,
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